Tai Chi
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What it is
Tai Chi is an ancient Chinese
martial art. Tai Chi emphasizes ‘soft techniques’, which don’t strike the opponent
directly, as well as meditative breathing exercises. It may be best known for
photos of early morning Chinese practitioners in parks.
The school I go to, Hong Ying, teaches
Yang style Tai Chi alongside Kung Fu, a much more ‘hard’ (and more well-known)
Chinese Martial Art. Hong Ying is a member of the International Plum Blossom Federation.
Tai Chi has some resemblance to
Yoga, and is said to originate from an Indian Yogi who travelled the Himalaya
and visited Buddhist temples. In practice, Tai Chi is a bit more martial than
Yoga: it has self-defense applications for all steps, which are often pushes or
joint locks. I occasionally joke that Hong Ying teaches ‘full contact Tai Chi’.
What it means to me
I started doing
Tai Chi for two reasons: all my friends were doing it, and I wanted to teach
myself patience by picking up an activity that would take a long time to learn.
I’ve stayed because, five years in, I’m still
trying to learn patience, and because I have come to appreciate how Tai Chi
teaches softness.
A core concept
of Tai Chi is to not meet force with force, but to deflect it. Martial arts like
Karate and Tae Kwon Do teach blocks, where you stop your opponent’s movement;
Tai Chi aims to redirect your opponent’s movement and use it against them.
Competitive
Tai Chi (also called ‘pushing hands’) involves pushing your opponent until they
are forced to move their feet and take a step. It revolves around reading your opponents movements
and finding where they are unbalanced or inflexible. If your opponent’s body part
is rigid or ‘locked’ you can use it to move them, which is why looseness is
very important. At the same time, you must connect to your opponent to be able
to read their intentions. The ultimate Tai Chi is to be so fluid that you
cannot ever be pinned down, yet to remain in contact at all times.
Years ago,
I took a personal development course, and one of the teachers there also taught
Tai Chi (I was already training at the time). I told him I had difficulties to
communicate with people who disagree with me. In reply, the teacher told me to
treat these conflicts like pushing hands: don’t try to win with force, but keep contact with your opponent so you
know what their intentions are. If
you know someone’s intentions you can work out a win/win solution, and you only
get to know this by staying in the conflict – whether it’s a competition or a
conversation.
In a way, Tai
Chi teaches a generalized version of the message “Bargaining for Advantage”
teaches about negotiation: framing a situation as an A versus B conflict
is a choice, and often not a productive one.
Tai Chi has
given me an appreciation for all things soft. I credit this regular mental and physical exercise (as
well as parenthood) with the much calmer demeanor I enjoy these days. Also, enough
soft exercise will eventually make
your muscles harder – I have built a lot more muscle over the past five years than
one might expect!